Learning to make a U-turn, unblend from reactive parts, and speak for them instead of from them is the key to having hard conversations safely.
The process supports each person in gaining clarity, calming the nervous system, and getting perspective on the needs beneath their reactivity. This is why in IFIO we provide a roadmap for the U-turn that can be used in the office with the help of a therapist or in between sessions.
The step-by-step guide on how to make a U-turn (and so much more) can be found in my new book, Internal Family Systems Couple Therapy Skills Manual: Healing Relationships with Intimacy from the Inside Out.
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