Author: Toni Herbine-Blank

A Couples’ Transformation with IFS & IFIO

The article below appeared in the September 2019 edition of OUTLOOK, in the Stories of Transformation insert, published by the Foundation for Self Leadership’s magazine. It is a great testament to the power of both the IFS program and IFIO couple therapy model. It is reproduced here with permission from the IFS Institute.

“I felt like I’d been in a loveless, sexless marriage for three decades! Sure enough, I’d brought my own long-term intimacy and sexuality issues to the relationship between John and I, but the initial connection we’d established in our early years was completely gone. John was constantly angry, resentful, frustrated and bitter, and that led me to feel worthless, emotionally unsafe, and filled with shame when I was near him. At our lowest point I couldn’t stand to be in his presence and divorce was just around the corner. I suggested counseling and John said he’d go – for one session.”

Click on the following link and go to page 15 to continue reading: http://foundationifs.org/images/outlook/2019_insert_sep_outlook_rev_online.pdf

For more information about OUTLOOK or for related articles, please see https://www.foundationifs.org/news/outlook#

Caring for the Caregivers – Recorded Webinar

On April 2nd, Toni facilitated a free webinar for the IFS community. During this time of change and uncertainty, Toni aims to care for the caregivers by helping us remain self-led while our clients, or the people we love, are suffering with anxiety and fear. In this recording, you’ll get an hour of self-care with meditation, unblending tips, and reminders on how to differentiate between empathy and compassion.

Finding Calm during a Global Pandemic

Dear Friends,

I imagine like me you are living with numerous polarities that appropriately come with this kind of global crisis. You might notice fear, denial, terror, curiosity, rage. What helps my parts is to try every which way possible to be present with all that is arising inside and out with as much care and compassion as possible. Another thing that helps me is to pay attention to my nervous system and my levels of arousal, and to practice every day, even in a small way, something that allows for a gentle, mindful, compassionate U-turn.

These things may include:
-Meditation
-Yoga
-Time in nature
-Writing
-Painting

Try an IFIO guided body scan meditation, designed to allow time to explore parts in the body and invite relaxation and tenderness toward yourself.

Click here to access a free guided meditation

Warm Regards,

Toni

The IFIO Therapist Directory is a rapidly growing list

Did you know we have over 200 therapists in the IFIO Therapist Directory? It serves as a great resource for finding IFIO-trained therapists in the US as well as in Australia, Canada, France, and the UK.  There are IFIO therapists listed across 30 US states, including DC, with 70 in Massachusetts alone!
Also, a handful of therapists in the directory are willing to do sessions remotely via voice/video calls or online.

If you have completed an IFIO training and would like to create a listing, please fill out the form linked here: ADD ME TO THE LIST

To access the directory, go to the Contact page on Toni’s website, toniherbineblank.com, or click the following link: IFIO Therapist Search

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