We’d like to share a couple videos of Larry Rosenberg, PhD, speaking about gender identity, sexual orientation, and talking with couples about sex. These topics were covered by Larry at an IFIO post-advanced training in 2019. Larry is a clinical psychologist based in Cambridge, Massachusetts, as well as an IFIO staff member. In November of 2020, Larry will be joined by Nancy Wonder, PhD. to teach a three-day IFIO advanced training dedicated to these topics.
Learn how to start becoming an antiracist practitioner with Thema Bryant-Davis, PhD, who provides us with a road map for Moving from Culture Competence to Antiracism in Clinical Practice. Watch Thema talk about this in the following 6 minute video, which was posted on the Nicabm blog (National Institute for the Clinical Application of Behavioral Medicine).
To explore this topic more, you can also read Ibram X. Kendi’s Book, How to be an Antiracist, which can be found on Amazon
The article below appeared in the September 2019 edition of OUTLOOK, in the Stories of Transformation insert, published by the Foundation for Self Leadership’s magazine. It is a great testament to the power of both the IFS program and IFIO couple therapy model. It is reproduced here with permission from the IFS Institute.
“I felt like I’d been in a loveless, sexless marriage for three decades! Sure enough, I’d brought my own long-term intimacy and sexuality issues to the relationship between John and I, but the initial connection we’d established in our early years was completely gone. John was constantly angry, resentful, frustrated and bitter, and that led me to feel worthless, emotionally unsafe, and filled with shame when I was near him. At our lowest point I couldn’t stand to be in his presence and divorce was just around the corner. I suggested counseling and John said he’d go – for one session.”
Click on the following link and go to page 15 to continue reading: http://foundationifs.org/images/outlook/2019_insert_sep_outlook_rev_online.pdf
For more information about OUTLOOK or for related articles, please see https://www.foundationifs.org/news/outlook#
On April 2nd, Toni facilitated a free webinar for the IFS community. During this time of change and uncertainty, Toni aims to care for the caregivers by helping us remain self-led while our clients, or the people we love, are suffering with anxiety and fear. In this recording, you’ll get an hour of self-care with meditation, unblending tips, and reminders on how to differentiate between empathy and compassion.
I imagine like me you are living with numerous polarities that appropriately come with this kind of global crisis. You might notice fear, denial, terror, curiosity, rage. What helps my parts is to try every which way possible to be present with all that is arising inside and out with as much care and compassion as possible. Another thing that helps me is to pay attention to my nervous system and my levels of arousal, and to practice every day, even in a small way, something that allows for a gentle, mindful, compassionate U-turn.
These things may include:
-Time in nature
Try an IFIO guided body scan meditation, designed to allow time to explore parts in the body and invite relaxation and tenderness toward yourself.
Did you know we have over 200 therapists in the IFIO Therapist Directory? It serves as a great resource for finding IFIO-trained therapists in the US as well as in Australia, Canada, France, and the UK. There are IFIO therapists listed across 30 US states, including DC, with 70 in Massachusetts alone!
Also, a handful of therapists in the directory are willing to do sessions remotely via voice/video calls or online.
If you have completed an IFIO training and would like to create a listing, please fill out the form linked here: ADD ME TO THE LIST
To access the directory, go to the Contact page on Toni’s website, toniherbineblank.com, or click the following link: IFIO Therapist Search
We live in uncertain times. It makes sense that we, as social animals , seek kindness in the faces of people we meet along our way. Sometimes we find it and sometimes we don’t.
How do we make a intra-relational U-turn when our protectors want to speak for themselves, when they experience a threat from the environment and it feels too close for comfort? Courageous communication works well when we want to change our conversations from reactivity to responsiveness. I invite you to do the same with your Parts. The more we connect with them the more they trust us. The more they trust us the more Self is available in our system and we move toward an internal cycle of care and compassion. Try the following un-blending tool the next time you notice your protectors are trying to engage your nervous system without your permission:
“Keep your heart tender so you can bring compassion to all that arises.” Jack Kornfield
May this New Year bring peace, joy and happiness to all sentient beings. This January, I want to express my deepest gratitude for all of the people who are presently supporting the development and the delivery of the IFIO model.
Beginning with my administrative team, Kristi Good and Jory Agate, without whom I would be lost at sea. And, to the core training team: Cathy Curtis, Ann Drouilhet, Joanne Gaffney, Kate Lingren, John Palmer, Larry Rosenberg, Robin Warsh, Nancy Wonder, Judi Zoldan, and Martha Sweezy. I just can’t express my appreciation enough.
In addition, there are many people, too many to list here, that volunteer their time and energy to IFIO by organizing and staffing all levels of the trainings in the United States and abroad.
Many thanks to everyone near and far! Wishing you all a magical 2020, clear vision ahead!